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2 Simple Steps to Control Your Obsessive Thoughts From Today

Updated: Dec 21, 2023

 A man close his eyes and try to control his thoughts

At times, the human mind can resemble an untamed wild horse, running amok with negative and obsessive thoughts. Such thoughts can become a significant hindrance to our peace and productivity. However, the good news is that you can indeed control obsessive thoughts and navigate your life towards positivity. Let's delve into the techniques and practices that can help you steer your mind in the right direction.

Understanding the Power of Thoughts

Our life's course is often determined by the thoughts we entertain. When we harbor positive thoughts, we manifest a positive reality. Conversely, when our mind is filled with negativity, it casts a gloomy shadow on our lives. Hence, understanding how to control your thoughts becomes crucial.

The Impact of Negative Thoughts

Negative thoughts can negatively affect our behavior which is unlikely to lead to a positive future, thereby reducing our initiative toward proactive behavior. By succumbing to such thoughts, we limit our potential to achieve a brighter, more fulfilling future.

The Role of Positive Thinking

Positive thinking, on the other hand, empowers us to overcome adversities. It enables us to face challenges with courage, resilience, and optimism. However, the path to positivity begins with the ability to control negative thoughts. It's important to not think negatively at least.

The Two-Step Process to Control Obsessive Thoughts

Managing your thoughts may seem challenging, but it becomes straightforward when you break it down into two steps. To control obsessive or negative thoughts, simply follow these two effective and easy steps.

Step 1: Recognizing the Thought When It Arises

The first step is to recognize when a thought comes up and notice that you're starting to think. It's best to recognize it before it becomes an emotion. If it has already transformed into emotions, such as anger or sadness, it's not too late; you can still acknowledge there's anger within you or there's sadness within you.

Step 2: Observing Thoughts Without Engagement

After recognizing when thoughts arise, simply let them be. Don't engage with them; instead, watch your thoughts pass by. For example, when a past memory that triggers negative emotion arises. Don't continue those thoughts. We often tend to continue our thoughts by participating in them, which can lead to negative emotions. When negative thoughts come up, let them pass without further engagement. Also, avoid judging or condemning them.

By practicing this, you can regain control over your thoughts. You can notice the difference as soon as within a day.

Thoughts vs. Inner Voice: The Crucial Difference

What's the difference between thoughts and inner voice? Thoughts are often repetitive, conditioned patterns influenced by societal norms and personal experiences. They may not always be grounded in present reality, leading to unnecessary stress.

On the other hand, the inner voice is an intuition, a deeper sense of knowing that aligns with the present moment and our authentic selves. This inner voice is usually calm, clear, and resonates at a core level. It remains unaffected by external factors or past conditioning.

Distinguish Between Thoughts and the Inner Voice

To differentiate between thoughts and your inner voice, practice mindfulness and presence. By becoming more aware of your thought patterns and emotions, you can discern between conditioned thoughts and the inner voice. The inner voice often brings a sense of peace, clarity, and alignment, while thoughts can bring confusion, fear, and doubt.

The Practice of Mindfulness

Waiting for Thoughts to Rise Naturally

Just like a predator animal patiently awaits a weaker animal to pass, wait for your thoughts to arise naturally. It's interesting that when we consciously await our thoughts, they won't arise as quickly compared to when we are not consciously focused on them. By embracing a state of intense boredom, we can free ourselves from excessive thinking

Paying Attention to Body Movements

This practice may seem simple, yet it requires focused effort. Pay close attention to your breath, noticing the flow of air in and out of your nose and chest. When you walk, concentrate on your movements and the sensation in your muscles. While washing your hands, feel the water and the movement of your hands. This is the practice of being in the present moment, and you can implement this technique wherever you are.


I know you might think, 'Again, everyone talks about meditation, isn't that overrated?' I used to feel the same way until not so long ago. However, meditation can be particularly effective for dealing with negative emotions. I recommend searching for guided meditation videos on YouTube, such as 'guided meditations for anger'. Once you find your favorite one, practice that meditation daily, at least once a day


Controlling obsessive thoughts may appear daunting initially, but with the right techniques and consistent practice, it becomes an achievable goal. By recognizing and observing your thoughts, distinguishing between your thoughts and inner voice, practicing mindfulness, and meditating regularly, you can steer your mind towards positivity and peace. Remember, the key lies not in suppressing your thoughts, but in understanding and managing them effectively.


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