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Change Your Emotional State Instantly by Changing Vocabulary

Updated: Dec 31

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Do you know that the words we utter play a significant role in shaping our emotions? This article explores the concept of transformational vocabulary, a technique that can help you navigate your feelings and change your mood from negative to positive.

The Impact of Vocabulary on Emotions

Our emotional state is often influenced by the vocabulary we use. For instance, when we express our anger by saying, "This drives me insane" or "I'm pissed off," we are essentially creating our emotional state through our choice of words.

By using a vocabulary that lowers the intensity of our emotions, like, "I'm getting just a bit annoyed" or "I'm peeved," we can immediately alter our emotional state. You can even craft your unique expressions that incite laughter or joy, further shifting your focus away from negative emotions.

"Language creates reality. Words have power. Speak always to create joy." - Deepak Chopra

The Importance of Breaking Emotional Patterns

A key strategy for transitioning from a negative to a positive emotional state is to break our typical emotional patterns. This process involves interrupting our usual reactions to negative situations, thereby altering the way we create and exacerbating our emotions.

Think about the words you frequently use daily, especially when responding to adverse events. Do you find yourself cursing, expressing self-pity, or showcasing your anger? These expressions may reinforce your negative emotions, making it harder for you to navigate them constructively.

The Influence of Vocabulary on Our Emotional State

A renowned life coach Tony Robbins once observed a fascinating phenomenon during a business meeting. Upon receiving unpleasant news, one participant, who looked extremely angry expressed his displeasure using intense words like "furious" and "livid," while another participant, who seemed calm in such a situation used milder phrases like "a bit annoyed" and "peeved." This observation made it clear that the choice of words significantly impacts our emotional state.

Crafting Your Transformational Vocabulary

Now, think about the phrases you typically use when come across negative situations. Then, come up with alternative expressions that can replace these phrases. Here are some examples:

  • When you feel angry: Instead of saying, "I'm pissed off," you could say, "I'm a little peeved."

  • When you're feeling depressed: Replace phrases like, "Why did this happen? This is terrible" or "I'm so depressed" with, "I'm going to turn this around and use this as an opportunity to grow" or "I'm a little surprised."

  • When you're anxious or nervous: Replace, "I'm so nervous right now" with, "My heart is bumping, I'm too excited just like the night before going on vacation."

  • When you feel uncomfortable: Instead of saying, "I hate this person," try, "I prefer not to spend too much time with this person."

These examples are just a starting point. Remember, you can create your own transformational vocabulary tailored to your unique emotional needs.

Preparing for Emotional Transformation

Once you've identified your transformational vocabulary, prepare to implement it in real-life situations. The next time you come across a situation that triggers a negative emotion, use your transformational vocabulary and observe the changes in your emotional state.

The Sitcom Technique: A Complementary Approach

Another method I want to mention that can help lower the intensity of negative situations is what I call the "Sitcom technique." This method involves imagining a laughter track playing in your mind when you encounter an annoying situation, similar to the funny scenes in sitcoms. This technique can effectively break the pattern of negative emotions.

The Role of Emotions in Decision Making

Our emotions greatly influence our actions and decisions. Dwelling on negative emotions rarely leads to positive outcomes. On the contrary, negative experiences can fuel our determination to improve our lives. Therefore, it's crucial to gain control over our emotions to make healthier decisions.

Choosing Your Emotional State

Emotional well-being is a choice. If you constantly find yourself in a state of negative emotions, how can you fully enjoy your life? With the power of transformational vocabulary, you can choose to be happy, calm, or excited, irrespective of your circumstances.


Transformational vocabulary is a powerful tool for emotional self-regulation. By consciously altering our words to express our feelings, we can control our emotional state and navigate life's challenges more effectively. So, the next time you find yourself in a negative emotional state, remember to break the pattern, use your transformational vocabulary, and observe the positive shift in your mood.

"The words we attach to our experience become our experience." - Tony Robbins

By integrating transformational vocabulary into your daily life, you are investing in your emotional well-being and personal growth. Start today, and experience the profound impact of this simple yet powerful technique.


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