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How to Let Go of Your Past: Overcome Your Annoying Past

Updated: Dec 22, 2023


Written 'let it go' on the beach

Life is a journey filled with ups and downs, joys and sorrows, successes and failures. And sometimes, some past experiences leave a significant mark on our lives. They shape us, mold us, and sometimes, they haunt us. Yet, it's important to remember that every past, no matter how annoying or painful, is a part of who we are today. And learning to let go of it is an essential step towards personal growth and happiness.


In this article, we will explore some powerful strategies to overcome your annoying past and embrace your future with grace and resilience.



Understanding Your Past

Your past is a collection of experiences that have shaped you into the person you are today. They might not always be pleasant, but they're a part of your journey. To let go of your past, you first need to understand it.


Step back and take an objective look at your past. What were the circumstances behind those annoying experiences? Why did they affect you so much? Are they still affecting you?



Acceptance: Accept What Happened

The next step is acceptance. Accept that your past happened, and it's a part of you. You can't change what happened, but you can control how it affects you. Don't let your past experiences define your present or future. Embrace them as lessons learned and move forward.



Imagine If You Didn't Go Through That Past: Change Your Perception

Changing your perception of your past can have a profound impact on how you feel about it. Instead of viewing your past as a burden, see it as a teacher. Every experience, no matter how painful, teaches us something.


Sometimes we find ourselves thinking, 'What if I hadn't gone through that suffering?' or 'I wish I had experienced ____.' But imagine who you would be today if you hadn't lived through your past experiences. Our present is shaped by our past, including both joys and hardships. If you hadn't endured those difficult times, you wouldn't have evolved into the person you are today. If you continuously hate your past, you inadvertently subject yourself to ongoing suffering. Instead, try to accept what has happened and endeavor to shift your perspective. Consider thinking, 'Those past sufferings changed my aspect and made me stronger.'



How I Overcame My Past

Take my example. I used to hate everything in my country. My parents, teachers, classmates, and school left me with unforgivable memories that sometimes flash back even today. That's why I got out of my home country, Japan. Since then, I have made great friends and gained experiences I wouldn't have had if I had stuck in Japan. With the passage of time, I've come to almost appreciate how those past experiences shaped me, even though they initially fostered my discontent with my own country. This transformation is why I made the decision to change my life.


I have also written an article on suffering and its meaning. You can read this from here.



Living In The Present

Life is happening right now, in the present moment. Not the past. And to truly let go of your past, you need to learn to live in the present. Past is history,


When you think about the past, you're not being present. When you realize you're thinking about the past you're being present. During flashbacks, it's crucial not to let your past control your current emotions. The moment you recognize yourself reminiscing about the past, take a step back and observe. Consider your emotions and contemplate how you might have evolved if you hadn't endured those sufferings.



Practice Being Present

You can practice presence through simple daily routines. For instance, every time you walk up and down the stairs, pay close attention to every step, movement, and even your breath. Immerse yourself completely in the moment. Or, when you wash your hands, focus on the sounds, sensations of water, the motion of your hands, the fragrance of soap, and every detail.




Embrace Failure

Failure is a part of life. Instead of dwelling on your past failures, embrace them as stepping stones towards success. Remember, every successful person has faced failures. What matters is how you bounce back from them.



Conclusion

Look at how far you've come, how you've evolved and grown from your past experiences. You're not the same person you were, and that's something to celebrate.


Letting go of your past might not be easy, but it's possible. With patience, perseverance and the right tools, you can overcome your annoying past and embrace your future with grace and resilience. Remember, you are not defined by your past. You are defined by who you choose to be today. So, choose to let go, choose to grow, and choose to be happy. Because you deserve it.


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